Please answer Yes or No to each of the questions below and keep track of how many YES answers you record.

1. Do you and your partner lack shared values?

2. Is your partner distant?

3. Do you have frequent fights?

4. Do you and your partner have sex infrequently? Do you and your partner disagree about frequency/preferences?

5. Do you and your partner have difficulty resolving issues? Do you have the same fight over and over again?

6. Do you feel like you’re constantly in a power struggle with your partner?

7. Do you have different views regarding finances?

8. Does one of you pull more weight in the relationship than the other?

9. Do you have different views regarding having or not having children?

10. If you have or want children, do you have different views regarding how to raise them?

11. Do either of you have trust issues?

12. Do either of you have substance abuse problems?

13. Do either of you have gambling or spending problems?

14. Do you feel your partner doesn’t hear you/understand you?

If you answered YES to 10 or more of these questions you have relationship issues that I could help you with.